By Maren Swenson

About This Session:

If you’ve ever stood in front of a full closet feeling frustrated because nothing feels like you anymore, this session is for you. In just 20 minutes, you’ll learn how to slow down, tune into your body, and turn getting dressed into a simple, soulful ritual instead of a stressful to-do. No rules, no “must-haves” — just a fresh, freeing way to feel confident, grounded, and like yourself again, starting with what you already own.

Hello. Hello, loves.
I'm Maren Swenson, a style and sensuality coach.
Which might have you feeling like, oh, because maybe you struggle with style.
Maybe you struggle with feeling like you look good in anything.
Maybe you struggle with feeling like, well, if I just could have a different body, then I'd love my
clothing and everything would be awesome and I'd be super into this.
Yeah. Does that sound like you?
Okay, well, that's exactly why I'm here, because I'm a stylist and I am a style coach and I love
fashion and all the things.
However, I'm really not a coach or a stylist in the traditional sense of what's flattering for your body
type kind of way, or this is your skin tone and so you're going to stick with this color palette kind of
way.
Great advice, but it's not going to solve the real problem.
I help women who really feel like they've lost themselves somewhere between the school drop off
line, the endless zoom calls, the constant you should the house cleaning, the servings, everyone
else all the time.
Women who maybe appear to look fine and have it all put together on the outside, but inside you
feel off.
I'm helping the ones who stand in front of a full closet, an overstuffed closet, even before girls
night out and think I hate everything I own and I'm like starting to panic and I might bail be and just
tell them I'm too tired to go because the thought of having to go out there like this sounds awful.
I'm here talking to the girl who pulls on the same black top again and the same jeans, even though
she really secretly would love to wear something else, but this is just her default. It feels safe.
It feels comfortable.
I'm talking to the girl who secretly dreads date night because nothing feels sexy and hot in their
bodies anymore.
And it's just kind of like, is it worth it?
Do I bother getting dressed up? I don't know.
I know you because I used to be you for years.
And I mean literally, like pretty much my whole life, except for the last 5ish years.
I dressed for other people.
I dressed for everyone else.
I dressed to follow rules.
I dressed to follow what my parents wanted.
I dressed to follow what I thought men would want of me or not want of me.
I dressed trying to be appropriate, what I thought would hide parts of my body.
I've had three babies and my body has changed drastically.
Up and down, up and down, up and down over the years.
And all the while, I really Just felt like my clothes and my body belonged to different versions of me,
but not really the real me.
Because I was never dressing from a place of like total confidence and embodiment and like, what
do I want?
No, it was always what looks good.
And so for me, who just loves fashion and loves style and isn't creative at heart and loves fabrics
and colors and materials and to stand out and be bold and all the fun stuff, it was like soul sucking
to realize that nothing in my closet was making me feel vibrant and beautiful the way I wanted to.
But then, I mean, it's a longer story and you can read all about it on my website.
But I did get to a point where I realized that my life and getting dressed and style and shopping
and fashion could be something totally different than frustration and overspending and full closets
of things I was never going to wear.
It could be a love letter that I gave myself and my body every single day.
It could be like a sacred, actual, ritualistic thing I did that I included in my self care routine every
morning.
Or if you're like me and you change multiple times a day, multiple times a day, it could be a way to
feel sexy and beautiful and like, I'm a smoke show every time I leave my house, or I'm a smoke
show in my house before the day even starts.
That sounds great, doesn't it?
I know it does.
Because you can feel this way.
You can own your own energy.
You can create it.
Now, now, now, now, now I know you're gonna argue with me and tell me, well, there's no way that
I can feel like that because I don't look like you.
Or there's no way that I can feel like that because I hate my stomach after I've had babies.
It's just carrying all this extra skin and fat.
Or you're going to say, well, easy for you to say, I don't have time for this.
I don't have enough money to spend on a clothing budget.
Or you're going to say, someday, I'll feel better someday, I'll invest in myself someday.
But we're going to throw all that out because your body does not.
It's not the thing that's going to make you feel amazing.
It's not. It'll help.
But it's not going to be the thing that like, helps you feel amazing inside.
Because clothing and style and confidence and hotness and sexiness, it's a vibe, it's an energy
frequency that you actually hold and carry.
Now if you're in this summit, you know?
You know what I mean?
It's all energy, right?
So you can be beautiful and stunning and feel amazing and confident and like you walk into the
restaurant and you're like, yeah, they are so lucky I'm here.
You can feel that way.
You can feel that way even if you're 100 pounds overweight.
I have friends who are literally that it's possible.
And I know because I've been there too.
I have felt like that when I've been 80 pounds overweight.
Yeah, it totally can be.
I do write an awesome blog post about this.
You should check it out on my website.
But I'm going to lead you through this thing today, okay?
We're going to slow things down.
We're going to turn style into a moment of connection and self care.
We're going to throw out the rules, we're going to throw out the shoulds.
And it's going to be just you and your body and how you want to feel.
Okay?
So I want you to.
We're going to drop into our bodies for a minute.
I want you to close your eyes or soften your gaze and just slow down.
We're going to take a deep, slow, deep breath in through our nose and let it out through your
mouth.
It's really great. If you can make sound as you exhale. We're going to do it again.
In and out.
Feel your shoulders soften and just keep breathing at your own pace.
Your jaw unclench, your belly expand.
Okay, now I just want you to notice, how does your body feel right now?
Heavy, Restless, Numb, Tired, Excited?
There's no right or wrong.
There's doesn't matter if it's positive or negative.
We're just noticing.
Okay?
Now ask yourself, how do I want to feel in my body today?
Not what should I feel, not what would be flattering on me, not what would be appropriate, just how
do I want to feel?
Is it radiant?
Is it free?
Is it grounded?
Is it soft?
Is it powerful, aggressive, ethereal?
And we can come up with all sorts of words, people.
But I just want you to listen inwardly.
How do you want to feel today in your body?
Okay, you can pause if you need to and just listen. Don't overthink it.
It's just going to be like the first word or two that comes to your mind.
Now I want you to imagine how getting dressed for you and picking out your clothes would be
different for you if you got dressed from that motive, from that intention and from that energy.
Because I know that probably Almost every single person who is listening to this and watching this
gets dressed by asking the question, how do I want to look?
What's going to look good?
When you go shopping with your friends and you're, like, trying stuff on, the first thing you do is
you turn to them and you say, how does this look?
Right? And we're already down the rabbit hole of trying to appear a certain way.
We're trying to manipulate and control other people's reactions to us based on what we're wearing.
Now, that sounds like.
Like it has a bad connotation to it.
And I don't mean it in that way.
It's just how we've been taught it's.
And it's okay, right?
Of course we all want approval.
We all want to control our narrative. That's normal.
But the problem with it is that it leaves you feeling so disconnected, and it's a losing battle because
you can't control it.
And if we're always trying to get dressed from an energy of, what am I supposed to wear that's
gonna make other people approve of me?
Ooh, losing game.
Because other people cannot approve of you unless they approve of themselves.
And we know this world is full of people who don't like themselves, especially lately.
So imagine getting dressed from the energy of, I want to feel powerful today.
Okay? It's different because you're not thinking about other people.
You're thinking about you.
So if you want to feel grounded, maybe you slip on some, like, soft, earthy fabrics in greens and
mustard yellows.
Maybe even some, like, soft browns pieces that really make you feel like you're connected to
Mother Nature.
If you want to feel radiant, maybe you put on some pretty bold colors or some jewelry that, like, is
shiny or catches the light.
If you want to feel held and supported, maybe it's like, a really cozy wrap or a soft sweater in really
comforting colors, like really warm grays or warm blues, right?
So whatever it is, whatever your word is that you want to feel today, I want you literally, right now
to imagine and picture yourself putting it on.
Whatever piece you're reaching for, the way the fabric feels against your skin.
Maybe it's a certain necklace or a red lipstick or a spritz of your favorite perfume before you walk
out the door.
Doesn't have to be a whole outfit.
Don't get caught up in it.
It can be just one tiny thing that says, I'm here. I matter. I feel good.
Okay?
Style does not have to be another thing on your to do list.
It really can be A quick, like two minute ritual that brings you back to yourself and sets you up for
emotional success the whole rest of the day.
And if you're emotionally regulated and feeling good, chances are all the other things are going to
fall in line too.
Okay, so here's a simple ritual that you can use every day.
I call it the Pause, choose, adorn practice.
We're going to pause, going to take 10 seconds, and we're going to breathe just simple breaths like
we did in the beginning.
In through your nose, out through your mouth.
If you could just do like two or three of those golden, you're going to feel what your body needs
that day. Okay?
And then I want you to choose, going to pick one item.
Clothing, jewelry, maybe fragrance, even like a hairstyle, whatever it is that totally aligns with how
you want to feel.
Okay?
Next you're going to adorn.
You're going to put it on with intention.
Not as like a costume, not as a performance, trying to like show people just how smart you are by
putting on those glasses, but as like a way to honor yourself. Okay.
Every time you do this, you're practicing self connection, not self critique.
And it will shift the energy of your entire day.
Now we've just barely scratched the surface of what style can be for you.
If you're sitting here thinking, oh my gosh, I love all this advice, but I don't even know where to
begin, that's okay, I've got you.
I'd love to connect more with you.
You can find me on my website, MarinSwenson.com I'm an email away.
Any of the emails you get from me, including the one that, that like all my welcome series
sequence that you get after you opt into my product, you can reply back to those and I will respond
right away.
I have great tools to support you in this journey, but whether or not you can join me, you can
repeat this practice every single day.
Because style is not about impressing other people.
It's about honoring yourself.
And if we can just start, even with that mindset shift, you will be like eons above where you used to
be. Okay.
It's about coming home to yourself.
Like one actual intentional choice at a time.
Thank you so much. I hope you have a beautiful day.