Shift from depletion to empowerment by learning to work with your energy, rather than against it.
Welcome, love to Day 1 of this powerful initiation—one that invites you to step into full ownership of your energy, your essence, and your path.
In today’s transmission, we’re diving into what it truly means to thrive by mastering your energy.
Right now, you might be feeling pulled in different directions, unsure of what you truly want, or lacking the energy to take action. But when you reclaim your energy and align with your true essence, your dreams become clearer, and you have the vitality, courage, and confidence to pursue them.
Without energetic awareness, you’ll keep defaulting to old patterns— like people pleasing, playing small, or self-sabotage—rather than stepping into the life they’re meant to create.
We’ll explore:
But first, if you're new to me or we haven’t connected in a while, let me introduce myself! I’ll keep it short for you.
I’m Alegna Moss, a Life & Soul Magic Coach dedicated to helping women break free from fear and self-doubt so they can fully trust the calls of their hearts and go *all in* on their dreams.
My journey started with a profound spiritual awakening in 2009 after an eye-opening mushroom trip, which set me on a lifelong path of personal growth, self-discovery, and embracing my unique magic. Since then, I’ve been blending the practical and mystical—exploring how we can create true fulfillment by aligning with our soul’s unique essence.
For me, business has been more than a way to create abundance on my own terms—it’s been a deep initiation into self-worth, authentic expression, energetic sustainability, and trusting myself fully. And because I’ve walked this path, I love guiding others through it too.
I’ve worked with energy for over a decade, weaving it into my branding business before stepping into coaching in 2023. After a brief pause to welcome my second baby into the world, I returned earlier this year with a renewed passion for helping others navigate their journey towards deeper authenticity and soul alignment.
At my core, I am a lightworker and paradigm-shifter, devoted to anchoring in the *New Earth*. Nothing lights me up more than seeing people embrace their truth, break free from conditioning, and show up in the world with an open heart.
Now, imagine this:
When you are fully owning your energy—when you trust yourself and honor your truth—you show up in life differently. You move with confidence. Decision-making becomes clear—you say *no* to what drains you and *yes* to what excites you, even if it feels uncertain.
Your relationships shift as well. Instead of molding yourself to fit others' expectations, you attract people who truly resonate with your energy. Conversations feel more natural, boundaries become effortless, and connections become more fulfilling.
Day-to-day, you move with intention rather than reacting to life. Maybe you start your mornings with stillness instead of immediately checking your phone. You become aware of what fuels you and make choices that support your well-being. Work and creativity feel lighter—ideas flow, and you take action in a way that energizes rather than depletes you. Life no longer feels like a struggle; it feels like something you're co-creating with ease and joy.
To get to this point, you have to treat your energy as your most valuable asset. It shapes your reality, influences your experiences, and determines how you feel every day. And here’s the truth: You have the power within you to create a life overflowing with joy, abundance, and deep fulfillment.
This journey is about reclaiming that power. Learning to be in your own energy, to trust the natural currents of your desires, and to flow with life rather than fight against it. Because when you do, life opens up in the most magical and unexpected ways.
How Radical Radiance Supports You in This Journey
This is the work we’ll be doing inside Radical Radiance, my high-vibrational coaching incubator designed to help you break through limitations, embody your soul’s unique codes, and create the life your heart truly desires.
As we move through this 5-part series, I’ll be sharing glimpses of how Radical Radiance can support you on this journey.
The program is designed to help you explore, understand, and work with your energy in a way that supports your expansion—without depletion. It’s about aligning with how you’re naturally designed to operate at your best.
We dive into your Human Design, so you can understand how your energy works and what you need to thrive. No more forcing yourself into boxes that are not conducive to your well-being. Instead, you’ll learn to honor your unique rhythm and flow.
You’ll learn to manage your energy on a daily basis —mentally, physically, emotionally, creatively, and spiritually. So you’re not constantly running on empty, pushing beyond your natural capacity, or getting stuck in cycles of burnout. Instead, you’ll cultivate a way of being that allows you to show up as your most radiant, powerful self with ease.
This journey is also about living a life by design, not by default.
So many of us have been conditioned to believe we have to follow a certain path, live up to certain expectations, or sacrifice our joy for success. But that’s not the truth.
In Radical Radiance, we work to decondition you from the limitations and programming that keep you playing small. You’ll begin making choices that reflect what truly matters to you—choices that are rooted in your desires, not in what you think you "should" do.
Instead of reacting to life’s circumstances, you’ll become the conscious creator of your reality. You’ll move through the world with clarity, confidence, and an unwavering connection to your bigger vision.
This is about stepping into your power, reclaiming your energy, and designing a life that feels deeply, truly yours.
Ok with that said, let’s dive into today’s transmission...
Your Most Fulfilling, Expansive, and On-Purpose Life Comes from Being Your True, Authentic Self
From the moment we are born, we are handed a framework for how life is "supposed" to be. We absorb rules, expectations, and conditioned beliefs about success, love, work, and even our own worth. These structures help us navigate the world as children, but as we grow, they often become cages—keeping us from fully expressing who we are and what we came here to do.
The truth is, that your most fulfilling and abundant reality can only unfold when you step into your authentic self.
Lack of authenticity is one of the most common reasons people feel drained, stuck, or unfulfilled. It’s an invisible force that erodes our energy and dims our inner spark. When we live out of alignment with who we truly are, everything feels harder. Our relationships, our work, even our ability to experience joy—it all suffers.
You can only create from a place of true power when you are fully yourself. When you honor your desires, your intuition, and your natural energy, you step into your creative force. Life becomes less about surviving and more about thriving. This is where true freedom and deep meaning are found.
And yet, you might be wondering: *Isn’t my life okay as it is? Do I really need to change?*
Many of us have been conditioned to believe that living authentically is selfish. That prioritizing our own truth means we are neglecting others. So we silence our intuition. We override our inner voice. We shape ourselves to match the energy of those around us, prioritizing their comfort over our own alignment.
We use other people’s happiness as our point of reference, rather than tuning into what actually feels right for us. And in doing so, we slowly disown our energy. We give away our power, letting someone or something else dictate the course of our lives.
Maybe this shows up for you in subtle ways—saying yes to plans when you’d rather rest, biting your tongue instead of expressing your true feelings, or structuring your entire day around other people’s needs, leaving no space for what you truly want. Or maybe it’s in bigger life decisions—choosing a “safe” career path because it’s what’s expected of you, or staying in relationships that drain you because you don’t want to disappoint anyone, or dismissing that big next step in your life your intuition is nudging towards because it doesn’t make logical sense.
I know this firsthand. I spent years following a path that wasn’t truly mine. From middle school through my second year of college, I pursued an education track to be a doctor —not because it was my dream, but because I felt the weight of other people’s expectations of what I *should* do with my potential. I ignored the inner voice telling me I was meant for something different. And when I got married, I made choices based on accommodating my family rather than what truly felt aligned for me and my partner. I look back at my wedding, and instead of feeling deep joy, I feel regret and remember how much I compromised my own desires to keep others happy.
It’s taken me time to break out of these patterns, to release the people-pleasing tendencies that kept me from fully honoring myself.
But what if reclaiming your energy—choosing yourself—was actually the key to everything you’ve been searching for?
This is your invitation to remember that your truth is not only valid, it’s necessary. And when you step into full alignment with who you are, you don’t just change your life—you become a beacon for others to do the same.
Your Reality is a Reflection of Your State of Being (aka Your Vibration)
Your vibration is the energetic frequency that reflects your thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and overall state of being. This frequency is constantly interacting with the universe, creating a magnetic pull that attracts experiences that match your energy. The universe responds to your vibration, and it does so without judgment—it simply mirrors what you’re offering.
Perception plays a crucial role in shaping your reality because how you perceive the world directly influences how you experience it. Your mind filters and interprets information based on your beliefs and past experiences. If you see the world as abundant, loving, and supportive, your perception will guide you to notice opportunities and connections that affirm that view. Conversely, if you see the world as hostile or limiting, your perception will focus on challenges and obstacles, reinforcing that belief.
In this way, your vibration and perception work together to shape your reality. The energy you emit attracts experiences that align with your vibration, and your perception of those experiences further reinforces the reality you create.
This is why prioritizing your vibration, or in other words, your state of being is essential.
The key to shifting your reality is to raise your vibration and consciously choose a perception that supports the kind of life you want to experience.
It’s about recognizing the power of your energy and understanding that you are not a passive participant in your life; you are the creator of it. Every moment is an opportunity to tune your vibration to a higher frequency, one that attracts abundance, peace, and growth.
When you elevate your vibration, you elevate your state of consciousness. And when you do that, you have more energy available to you to create the life you desire. It becomes easier to see beyond scarcity, fear, and limitation. You stop feeling like life is something happening *to* you and start experiencing life as something you are actively co-creating.
The higher your vibration, the more life flows, and the easier it becomes to magnetize the things you want. Synchronicities increase, opportunities appear, and things begin to unfold with greater ease.
Owning Your Energy in a World of Influence
Your energy does not exist in isolation. You are constantly interacting with the energies of others—absorbing, syncing, and being shaped by the world around you. This isn’t a bad thing; it’s simply the nature of being human.
We are wired for connection. We have a natural tendency to synchronize with each other’s energy fields. It’s why you can walk into a room and immediately sense tension or why someone’s laughter can be contagious. The energy of those around us is always influencing us, just as our energy influences them.
But here’s the key: If you don’t own your energy—if you aren’t anchored into your own state of being—you will be at the mercy of everything and everyone around you.
When you constantly put external energies—other people’s opinions, societal expectations, or the chaos of the outside world—above your own, you disconnect from your truth. You give away your power.
Your mood, decisions, and even your sense of self can become dependent on external factors. You might:
This is why self-awareness is crucial. When you deeply know yourself—when you trust that you are enough—you begin to cultivate the energetic boundaries that allow you to stay in your own frequency.
Without this foundation, co-dependency forms. We start to rely on other people’s approval, emotional state, or validation to feel secure in ourselves. Our fulfillment and identity become intertwined with the ever-changing moods of those around us, leaving us ungrounded and disconnected from our truth.
But when you own your energy—when you consciously choose your state of being—everything shifts.
This is what energetic mastery is all about—not shutting yourself off from the world, but standing so firmly in your own frequency that you become the one setting the tone.
Reclaiming Your Energy
Reclaiming your energy is about stepping into full ownership of your life—choosing to be intentional about where your energy goes and how you show up in the world. It requires three key shifts:
1. Taking Responsibility – You are the gatekeeper of your energy. This means being conscious of what you allow into your field—whether it's the people you surround yourself with, the media you consume, or the thoughts you entertain. It also means taking ownership of what you put out into the world, and recognizing that your words, actions, and energy all create ripple effects.
2. Honoring Your True Self – Living in alignment requires courage. It means structuring your life in a way that reflects what truly matters to you. This could look like setting boundaries in relationships, choosing work that lights you up, or creating space for rest and joy without guilt. When your commitments, environment, and social life support your truth, your energy naturally expands.
3. Mastering Your Energy – The 4-Part Framework
Self-mastery is about knowing how to navigate your internal state so that you stay aligned with your power. This requires:
1. Presence & Awareness – The foundation of energy mastery starts with being fully present and aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical state. It’s about being fully engaged in the current moment and paying attention to what’s going on within and around you. This helps you break free from unconscious reactions and reclaim control over your energy. When you're aware of where your energy is going, you can redirect it intentionally instead of letting external influences drain you.
2. Get Perspective & Process Emotions – Instead of getting stuck in limiting stories or negative emotions, you learn to step back, observe, and process them in a healthy way . Emotions like fear, frustration, or self-doubt don’t have to control you—you can acknowledge them, shift your perspective, and release what no longer serves you without avoiding or suppressing it.
3. Align with Your Desires – Living in alignment means making choices that reflect the person you want to become. When your thoughts, emotions, and actions match your desires, you naturally attract what you want. Whether it’s abundance, joy, or freedom, you create the energy of it first, which allows it to flow into your life with greater ease.
4. Nourish Your Well-Being – Your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being all contribute to how you show up in the world. Taking care of your body, setting boundaries, getting enough rest, and surrounding yourself with uplifting energy are essential for sustaining high-vibrational living.
The beauty of this 4-part framework lies in how each part supports and enhances the others. Presence & Awareness helps you navigate and process emotions, which in turn allows you to align more deeply with your desires. When you nourish your well-being, you create the foundation for greater presence, emotional processing, and alignment, thereby perpetuating a cycle of positive energy. Mastering this framework allows you to move through life with greater ease, resilience, and joy, while constantly refining and optimizing your energy for the best results.
When you commit to these practices, you reclaim your power as the creator of your life. You stop reacting to the world around you and start moving from a place of inner alignment and clarity.
Aligning With Our Energetic Blueprint Allows Us to Move Through Life with Greater Ease
When you move in harmony with your natural energy, everything flows with greater ease and grace.
What works for one person won’t necessarily work for another, because we are all wired differently.
When we aren’t aware of our unique energy, we can often feel pulled in multiple directions, trying to meet the needs and expectations of others or society. This misalignment can lead to frustration, stress, and a sense of overwhelm.
This is why honoring your own rhythm, rather than following someone else’s formula, is key to unlocking your magic.
For example: Some people thrive with structured schedules, routines, and clear plans. It helps them stay focused and productive. Others feel stifled by rigid systems and need more fluidity, space, and spontaneity to do their best work.
Neither is right or wrong—it’s simply about knowing what works for *you*.
By discovering and aligning with your energetic blueprint, you’re essentially reconnecting to your true nature. You stop pushing against the current and start moving with it.
The first step is always awareness.
One of the most powerful tools for this self-awareness is Human Design. Think of it as a personalized instruction manual for your energy. It combines elements of astrology, the I Ching, the Kabbalah, and the chakra system to create a system that maps out your specific energy patterns, strengths, and challenges.
There are a lot of different elements to your design, but the most important places to start are your type, strategy, and authority.
Your Type represents your core energetic nature and how you're designed to interact with the world. There are five main types, each with their own unique way of processing energy and interacting with others. Understanding your Type is essential because it gives you a broad overview of how you best operate.
Your Strategy is a guideline for how you should approach life to avoid resistance and frustration. It's essentially your "roadmap" for engaging with the world in the most aligned way possible.
Your Authority is your unique decision-making process—how you’re designed to make choices that are correct for you. While Strategy guides how you should engage with the world, Authority provides a more personal, internal mechanism for determining what’s right for you.
I won’t go into detail on the different kinds of type, strategy, and authority here but I created a resource that introduces you to them if you’re not familiar with the system. It also goes into the centers which can show us where we’re susceptible to outside conditioning and the influence of others. That alone can be eye-opening. If you want this resource email me with the words Human Design and I’ll send it over.
Tools like Human Design offer a powerful framework to gain awareness of our unique energy and help us make decisions that honor who we truly are.
By tuning into your design, trusting your rhythm, and making choices that align with *your* flow, you unlock the path of least resistance—the path where your desires unfold effortlessly, without struggle.
Conclusion – Thriving by Being Yourself
When we release the preconceived notions of *how* life should be and start working with our own energy, something powerful happens: we begin to thrive simply by being ourselves.
No more forcing, no more striving to fit into a mold that was never meant for us. Instead, we step into a life that feels aligned, natural, and fulfilling—because it’s built around our true nature.
This is what energetic mastery allows us to do:
It all comes down to three things:
1. Mastering your energy – Knowing how to navigate and direct your inner state.
2. Embodying your authentic expression – Owning who you are without apology.
3. Making aligned choices – Taking action from a place of truth, rather than conditioning.
Before you go back to your day, I invite you to take 5-10 minutes to reflect on the following questions. Grab a journal or just sit with them in quiet contemplation:
1. Where in my life do I feel the most resistance, exhaustion, or frustration? (This could be in work, relationships, routines, decision-making, etc.)
2. Am I following a path or expectation that doesn’t actually feel right for me? If so, what feels more true to me?
3. What is one simple shift I can make today to align more with my natural energy? (Example: Giving yourself permission to rest, making a decision based on your gut instinct instead of logic, saying no to something that drains you, etc.)
Release old patterns of hesitation and open yourself to the transformations you’ve been craving.
Welcome back to Day 2 of your initiation! Hopefully, yesterday’s audio helped you gain some clarity on what in your life needs to shift. Today, we’re diving into the fear that inevitably comes up when we face change.
We’ll explore:
But first I want to share…
How Radical Radiance Can Help You Break Through resistance to change
Navigating change isn’t just about willpower—it’s about reprogramming the patterns that keep you stuck. That’s exactly what we do inside *Radical Radiance*. This process isn’t about forcing yourself forward through sheer determination. It’s about rewiring your nervous system so that change no longer feels like a threat.
Fear isn’t the enemy—it’s a sign that you’re stepping into new territory. But instead of letting it control you, we teach you how to process it, work with it, and move through it so it no longer pulls you back into old patterns. Through deep nervous system regulation, mindset shifts, and somatic practices, we help you build the internal safety you need to take bold, aligned steps forward.
And you’re not doing it alone. The coaching process inside *Radical Radiance* holds you accountable—not to your fears, but to your highest vision. We help you stay anchored in the version of you who is already living the life you desire. When self-doubt creeps in or the temptation to retreat arises, you’ll have expert guidance and a high-vibrational community to support you through the discomfort, helping you maintain momentum.
Because here’s the truth—transformation is easier when you’re surrounded by others who are on the same journey. The energy of the group becomes a powerful force that keeps you moving forward, reminding you that you *can* do this, that you *are* capable, and that you’re not alone.
This is how you finally break free from the cycle—for good.
Ok so let’s dive into today’s topic.
Getting Stuck in the Change Cycle
When we want to change an aspect of our lives, we often imagine it as a straightforward path: we decide, we act, and things shift. But in reality, change rarely happens in a straight line. Instead, it tends to follow a cycle—one that can keep us stuck, looping in the same frustrations, even when we deeply desire something different.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re on the verge of transformation but somehow end up right back where you started, this is why. The change cycle is a pattern we unconsciously repeat, moving between desire, fear, resistance, and retreat. Understanding this cycle is the key to breaking free from it.
Let’s break it down step by step.
1. Discontent – You start feeling dissatisfied with an area of your life. Maybe it’s your job, your relationship, your financial situation, or your lifestyle. But instead of acting on it, you push it down. You tolerate it because it’s familiar, and the unknown feels scarier than staying put.
2. Breaking Point – Eventually, the discomfort grows unbearable. Sometimes it builds gradually, and other times a dramatic event forces you to confront what you’ve been avoiding.
3. Decision – In a moment of clarity, you decide to change. You declare you won’t settle anymore and take the first step. There’s an initial rush of hope and empowerment.
4. Fear – As soon as you encounter the inevitable challenges of change, fear kicks in. Doubts flood your mind. What if you fail? What if you regret this? What if people judge you? These fears often arise when you face real obstacles—loneliness after leaving a relationship, financial uncertainty when starting a business, or the discomfort of learning something new. Suddenly, both options—staying and leaving—seem terrifying. You feel overwhelmed or even helpless.
5. Amnesia – The fear becomes so strong that the old situation no longer seems so bad. It feels less stressful than the idea of change. It's familiar, comfortable, and something you’ve grown accustomed to. It’s even intertwined with your sense of identity, making it hard to let go. You conveniently forget the pain, the frustration, and the reasons you wanted to change in the first place.
6. Backtracking – Instead of moving forward, you retreat. You convince yourself to stay where you are, and the cycle repeats.
So, what does that look like?
Example 1: Leaving a toxic relationship
You know deep down that your relationship is unhealthy. You feel drained, undervalued, and maybe even mistreated. You tell yourself it’s not *that* bad and cling to the good moments. But over time, the emotional toll grows unbearable. One day, something pushes you over the edge—a huge argument, betrayal, or simply waking up exhausted from the cycle. You finally say, “Enough!” and decide to leave. At first, you feel strong and free. But then, the reality of being alone sets in. Maybe you struggle with loneliness, or dating again feels overwhelming. “What if I never find love again?” “What if I regret this?” The loneliness feels overwhelming, and suddenly, your old relationship doesn’t seem so bad. You start remembering the happy times, downplaying the bad. You consider going back—and many people do. The cycle continues unless you break it.
Example 2: Pursuing your passion
You’ve always dreamed of starting your own business, writing a book, or pursuing an artistic career. Your job feels soul-crushing, but it’s safe and pays the bills. You fantasize about a different life but tell yourself, “Now’s not the right time.” One day, something shifts—you’re fed up, you get inspired, or maybe a layoff forces you into action. You take the first step, and excitement rushes through you. Then, fear crashes in as soon as you hit your first real challenge. Maybe no one buys your first product, your writing gets rejected, or you struggle to stay consistent. “What if I fail?” “What if I waste my time?” You compare yourself to others, doubt your abilities, and suddenly, your old life looks appealing again. The cycle tempts you to stay small, but breaking it means pushing through the fear.
Now that we see how this plays out, let’s see how we can overcome the fear.
Overcoming the Fear
Overcoming the fear of change can feel like an impossible task, but there are two powerful ways to break free from the grip of fear. For some, change only happens when staying the same becomes unbearably uncomfortable. This could come in the form of a job loss, a breakup, a financial collapse, or a health crisis. Life has a way of forcing our hand when we resist long enough. Our Higher Self, the part of us that knows what we truly want, pushes us to evolve, often through painful experiences. While this might feel like the only way out, it’s not the most empowering approach.
The more powerful way to shift is through radical self-honesty. This involves recognizing that a part of us might actually be attached to staying the same. Perhaps we benefit in ways we haven’t fully acknowledged—whether it’s familiarity, safety, or a fear of losing our identity in the process of change. When we get real with ourselves about these attachments, we reclaim the power to choose differently. By being honest about what’s really holding us back, we can lessen the fear and take action with more clarity.
To break the cycle, it’s essential to dig deeper into the underlying reasons you’ve been holding yourself back from embracing change. Take a moment to reflect or journal on the following possibilities, making a note of how each one resonates with you:
Now, consider how this ongoing cycle of avoiding change has impacted your life. Have you reached a point where you’re tired of feeling dissatisfied? If you’re ready to face the hard truth, are you willing to swallow the pill of self-honesty, even if it’s uncomfortable? Most importantly, are you at a place where you’re willing to accept nothing less than what you truly want?
By embracing radical self-honesty, you start the process of releasing old patterns and stepping into the life you’ve been yearning for. Change isn’t easy, but it’s the only way to transform your reality and build a future that aligns with your deepest desires.
To help with this process, I’ve created a worksheet with two activities. The first is a "change resume" that helps you see how past changes have led to positive outcomes or valuable lessons. The second is "fear setting," which helps you confront your fears and break them down, making them less intimidating. If you’d like to receive the worksheet, just send me an email with the words "overcome fear.
That’s it for today. On the next audio, we’re going to talk about moving forward with clarity and joy.
Strip away the noise and reconnect with your deepest desires so you can move forward with confidence.
Yesterday, we talked about how we can get stuck in a cycle of resisting change. Today, we’re going to keep clearing out fear so you can reconnect with your deepest desires and move forward with confidence.
Here’s what we’ll explore today:
Fear of the Unknown: Why We Stay Stuck
We, as humans, are wired to seek comfort in the familiar. Even when the familiar isn’t what we truly want, it feels safe simply because we know what to expect. On top of that, we have a deep need for certainty. Our minds crave predictability because it gives us a sense of control.
Fear convinces us that avoiding what we’re afraid of is the safest option. It tells us that stepping into the unknown is dangerous, that it will be hard, that we might fail. And so, instead of moving forward, we hesitate. We stay where it’s safe, even when we know we’re meant for more. The subconscious mind equates change with potential loss, so if we’ve been conditioned to believe growth requires struggle, we sabotage ourselves to avoid it.
But here’s the thing: the path ahead—the one that leads to your dreams—is inherently uncertain. And when we don’t have all the answers, when we can’t predict every step, our minds try to compensate by overthinking.
When we overthink, we get stuck in our heads, searching for certainty where none exists. We analyze every possible outcome, trying to find the “right” path before taking action. But all this does is create mental noise—drowning out the very thing that can helps us move forward: our intuition.
And as if our own thoughts weren’t loud enough, we’re also constantly bombarded with external distractions—messages of fear, scarcity, and doubt. The news, social media, and even well-meaning friends and family can add to the noise, making it hard to hear our intuition. Even when we have clarity on what we want, this outside noise can pull us into second-guessing ourselves.
This combination—internal overthinking and external distractions—creates confusion. And when we feel confused for long enough, it turns into resistance. Instead of taking action, we get stuck.
How Self-Sabotage Manifests
When we’re stuck in confusion, it often shows up as self-sabotage. We say we want something, but our actions don’t align with it. This might look like procrastination—telling ourselves we’ll start when the timing is “right” or when we feel “ready.” It can show up as overanalyzing, where we get stuck in indecision and fear making the “wrong” choice. Sometimes, it takes the form of perfectionism—setting impossibly high standards so we never feel good enough to begin. Other times, it looks like shrinking back, doubting ourselves when things actually start going well. And then there’s creating distractions, where we fill our time with unnecessary tasks, drama, or excuses to avoid what really matters.
The more we recognize these patterns, the more power we have to shift them.
Radical Radiance
One thing I love about *Radical Radiance* is that it helps you navigate the *day-to-day* emotional waves so you can keep moving forward giving it your best —even if today that’s only 20%. We integrate practices that ground you, clear the noise, and reconnect you with your intuition. You get the tools to help you cultivate well-being while energetically holding you to a higher frequency.
Motivation Follows Action
A common misconception is that we need to feel motivated before we take action. But the truth is, that motivation only follows action. The unknown stops feeling scary the moment you take a step into it. It’s no longer some big, looming thing—it just becomes *the thing you’re doing*.
If you wait until you feel ready, you might be waiting forever. The only way to get unstuck is to *move*.
One effective strategy is to break down large tasks into smaller, more manageable steps, which reduces the overwhelming feeling that often comes with change or uncertainty.
The good news? You don’t need absolute certainty to take action. You just need to know the next right step. Act on whatever clarity you already have. Even if you don’t see the full path yet, trust that each step will reveal the next.
Cutting Through the Noise to Move Forward
To truly connect with clarity, we have to create space—space from external distractions, space from mental overactivity, and space from the emotional fog that clouds our inner knowing.
Here are some ways to do that:
1. Quiet the Mental Overload
Overthinking is just fear in disguise. The mind tries to find certainty by overanalyzing, but clarity doesn’t come from thinking more—it comes from thinking *less*. Some ways to break the cycle:
2. Become the Guardian of Your Mind
Your subconscious mind is like a garden—whatever you plant and nurture will grow. Think of fear and resistance like weeds. They don’t need much encouragement to grow—if left unchecked, they can take over, making it hard to see what’s actually possible. If you constantly feed it fear-based information, comparison, and self-doubt, that’s what will take root. Protect your mental space by:
3. Joy is Your North Star
When you intentionally plant seeds of joy—moments of excitement, curiosity, and playfulness—you shift the energy in your mind. Just like sunlight and fresh air help a garden thrive, these moments nourish your spirit and break through the heaviness of resistance. Even the smallest spark of joy can create momentum, shifting you from feeling stuck to feeling open and in flow. Suddenly, you have space to breathe, to explore, to expand.
And this isn’t just about feeling good—it’s about shifting out of fear and into possibility. The more you lean into what naturally energizes you, the easier it becomes to move through resistance. When you intentionally make space for what excites and expands you, clarity and intuition rise to the surface. The next step becomes clearer, and instead of pushing, you allow things to flow.
Think of joy as the language of your intuition. Your intuition is like an inner compass, always nudging you toward what’s right for you. But that guidance doesn’t usually come as a loud, obvious command—it’s subtle. It speaks in feelings, impulses, and gentle nudges. Joy, excitement, and curiosity are some of the clearest signals it gives. When something lights you up, it’s often your intuition pointing you toward the next aligned step.
When you feel genuinely excited, energized, or at peace with a decision, it’s a sign that it’s in harmony with your deeper truth. On the other hand, when something feels heavy, forced, or draining, it’s usually an indication that it’s out of alignment.
The problem is, if we’re overwhelmed with fear, doubt, or overthinking, it drowns out that intuitive guidance. We get stuck analyzing every option instead of listening to the simple truth that our body and emotions are already telling us. That’s why following joy is so powerful—it clears the noise, brings us into the present moment, and opens us up to receive the intuitive nudges we might have otherwise missed.
Choosing to move toward what inspires you instead of being driven by fear is a radical act. So many of us have been conditioned to focus on what we don’t want, always trying to avoid failure, discomfort, or uncertainty. But what if, instead of letting fear dictate your path, you started following what lights you up? That’s where flow lives. That’s where things start clicking into place.
And here’s something important to remember: the opposite of anxiety isn’t certainty—it’s trust. You can trust what excites you. The more you do, the clearer your path becomes. Imagine how things might shift if, instead of focusing on fear and doubt, you turned your attention to what brings you joy.
When you trust what excites you, you strengthen your connection with your intuition. You stop second-guessing and start moving with more flow and ease. The more you listen, the louder and clearer that inner guidance becomes. And over time, you start living in a way that feels deeply aligned, because you’re no longer forcing—you're simply following what was meant for you all along.
If you're unsure about your next step, follow what sparks something inside you. So instead of asking, *What’s the right decision? What’s the best way to do this?* ask, *What feels expansive? What feels exciting?* Your next step doesn’t have to make perfect sense to anyone else—it only has to resonate with *you.*
That said, when you're stuck in overthinking or just feeling off, shifting straight into excitement can feel impossible. You can’t just jump from feeling stuck to feeling amazing in an instant. The key is to first process and release whatever’s weighing you down so you can get back to *neutral.* From there, emotions like appreciation, gratitude, and satisfaction create a bridge to feeling lighter and more open. And once you're in that space, you can access joy more easily, and taking the next step feels natural.
To help you with this, here’s a simple practice you can use anytime to ground yourself, clear out noise, and reconnect with your inner joy.
Energy Clearing Practice: Grounding & Connecting
This is a great way to get you out of your head and into your body. You are strongest and the most powerful when you’re fully present in your body. You can make this yours and use it to shift your energy as you go about your day. It can be a quick pick me up or you can take your time and make it a deep meditation.
1. Grounding with Earth Energy
2. Connecting with Source Energy
3. Envisioning Your Desired Outcome
Remember, this process doesn’t have to be perfect—energy follows intention. The more you practice, the more naturally you’ll return to a state of clarity, presence, and alignment.
Closing Thought
Overcoming fear-driven self-sabotage starts with awareness—acknowledging the fear and recognizing the patterns that keep us stuck. Fear, doubt, and resistance aren’t signs that something is wrong; they’re part of the journey. They’re growing pains, signaling that you’re stretching beyond your comfort zone.
Instead of resisting these feelings, allow them to be there. What we resist, we hold on to. But when we acknowledge discomfort as a natural part of growth, it loses its grip on us. We can take action *despite* the fear, and with each step forward, fear has less power over us.
This journey isn’t about being fearless—it’s about learning to move forward with fear in the passenger seat. Practicing self-compassion and focusing on *progress* rather than perfection makes the process easier. Small wins build confidence, and over time, they dissolve the fear of failure.
So as you continue on this path, remember: clarity comes through action, and joy is your compass. Keep showing up, keep taking steps, and trust that you’re exactly where you need to be.
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